How Are Those New Year Resolutions Going?

Originally published by bcuban.

You are now nine-days into your New Year’s Resolutions (If you make them) I’ve done a lot of “resoluting” in my life.  I loved and hated hem. I adored the hope and fantasy of a new Brian (As I defined that). I despised the loss of  hope that inevitably followed.

In college and law school there were many Non-binding contracts with myself. Study harder. Be more outgoing. Make some friends. Drink less. Get drunk less. Stop binging and purging (I was bulimic). Lose lots of weight (even though I was of average weight) Each resolution lasted few a few days. Then the drinking binge. The food binge with the resulting purge. The inevitable “what’s the point.” Anger. Shame. Defeat. Depression.

After law school, I sunk further and further into depression and problem drinking. I added cocaine addiction to the mix. Resolutions still came but adjusted to fit the problems of the day.  Snorting less cocaine. Changing drug dealers (yes that was an actual resolution), switching to Jack Daniels and Diet Coke from Rum and Diet Coke. Taking cabs instead of driving after my DWI. Taxis were great. I could snort more cocaine and drink more without the risk of arrest.

I don’t remember making any resolutions to better a better law student or lawyer. To better serve my clients. To not take cases I was not competent to handle. To not sell my clients down the river to avoid a courtroom.

My last resolution was January 2006. I vowed to stop drinking so much and quit using cocaine. I had met a woman I knew I wanted to share my life.  Her love would be the difference. You can imagine how that worked out. Addiction is a disease. It takes more than love to deal with it. We moved in together. I didn’t stop. I even traded Dallas Mavericks championship tickets for cocaine. In April 2007, I took my second trip to a psychiatric facility. Pain Shame. Defeat. Cycles were repeating.

I began my long-term recovery from drugs, alcohol and my eating disorder in April 2007. I decided that it was time to do something different. Yearly resolutions were not my path to sobriety and self-love. Instead, I chose to live my life one day at a time. I would focus on the day I was in rather than projecting the future. I would no longer set myself up for failure and another cycle of relapse and shame.

My recovery became about daily goals. One day sober. One day without sticking my finger down my throat. At least one 12 step meeting per day. (Alcoholics Anonymous is the most well known 12-step group).   A session with my therapist. Lexapro to deal to even out my clinical depression.  Allowing myself to be vulnerable. Dismantling the brick wall I had built around my feelings decades ago, one brick at a time and living my life one day at a time.

As the years passed my goals built on that base. Doing what I love most. Writing. Sharing my recovery in as many forums as I could. Hitting the pillow each night with the knowledge that I may have touched one person.

Today, I also have daily affirmations. To do the next right thing and learn from the wrong thing. That builds resilience. Using mindfulness in my decisions either in preparation or reflection.  That often occurs during a hot shower rather than a traditional meditation session. To do at least one thing to take care of my mind and body. Finally, each day, to love me and allow others to love me. Each day, I tell myself, I am enough.

Whatever your resolutions in the New Year, be sure to love yourself and take care of you every day. Build on that. Take it from me. Playing catch-up sucks.

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Original author: bcuban
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In Memoriam—December 2018

The State Bar of Texas’ Membership Department was informed in December 2018 of the deaths of these members. We join the officers and directors of the State Bar in expressing our deepest sympathy.

• John C. Backus, 85, of Bend, Oregon, died August 3, 2018. He received his law degree from Indiana University School of Law-Bloomington and was admitted to the Texas Bar in 1972.
• Terry Gene Collins, 75, of Rockport, died November 19, 2018. He received his law degree from the University of Houston Law Center and was admitted to the Texas Bar in 1970.
• Cristina Cooper, 51, of Austin, died December 4, 2018. She received her law degree from the University of Texas School of Law and was admitted to the Texas Bar in 1992.
• John Spencer Holleman Jr., 71, of Livingston, died November 6, 2018. He received his law degree from Baylor Law School and was admitted to the Texas Bar in 1972.
• Robert E. Jack, 74, of Corpus Christi, died November 5, 2018. He received his law degree from Baylor Law School and was admitted to the Texas Bar in 1977.
• Alvin G. Khoury, 82, of Longview, died November 21, 2018. He received his law degree from Southern Methodist University School of Law and was admitted to the Texas Bar in 1959.
• Edward Kliewer III, 73, of San Antonio, died December 8, 2018. He received his law degree from Texas Tech University School of Law and was admitted to the Texas Bar in 1973.
• Gordon Morriss, 65, of Dallas, died October 26, 2017. He received his law degree from Texas Tech University School of Law and was admitted to the Texas Bar in 1977.
• Charles E. Myers, 72, of Abilene, died November 28, 2018. He received his law degree from Baylor Law School and was admitted to the Texas Bar in 1969.
• Jesse L. Nickerson III, 75, of Powderly, died July 19, 2018. He received his law degree from South Texas College of Law and was admitted to the Texas Bar in 1973.
• Ricardo D. Palacios, 75, of Encinal, died December 15, 2018. He received his law degree from St. Mary’s University School of Law and was admitted to the Texas Bar in 1971.
• Cread L. Ray Jr., 87, of Austin, died December 10, 2018. He received his law degree from the University of Texas School of Law and was admitted to the Texas Bar in 1957.
• Karl J. Russell, 70, of Houston, died January 20, 2018. He received his law degree from St. Mary’s University School of Law and was admitted to the Texas Bar in 1973.
• Deborah L. Schrier-Rape, 56, of Coronado, California, died June 27, 2018. She received her law degree from Stanford Law School and was admitted to the Texas Bar in 1993.
• Jay Edward Tantzen, 60, of Bridge City, died November 12, 2018. He received his law degree from Oklahoma City University School of Law and was admitted to the Texas Bar in 1993.
• Robert B. Todd, 78, of Taylor, died October 18, 2018. He received his law degree from the University of Houston Law Center and was admitted to the Texas Bar in 1974.
• Thomas G. Van Amburgh, 67, of Dallas, died December 15, 2018. He received his law degree from Southern Methodist University School of Law and was admitted to the Texas Bar in 1976.
• Ryan Wallace, 27, of Houston, died December 5, 2018. He received his law degree from South Texas College of Law Houston and was admitted to the Texas Bar in 2018.

If you would like to have a memorial for a loved one published in the Texas Bar Journal, please go to texasbar.com/memorials. If you have any questions, please don’t hesitate to contact the Texas Bar Journal at (512) 427-1701 or toll-free at (800) 204-2222, ext. 1701.

Original author: Adam Faderewski
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The Daily News Briefing is a compilation of State Bar of Texas news and legal news stories culled from media across the state. The briefing is emailed each work day and includes the latest State Bar of Texas and Texas Young Lawyers Association podcast episodes as well as a quick link to the latest online version of the Texas Bar Journal. The Daily News Briefing is open to all individuals.

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Texas Bar Journal Must-Reads for January

 

Ready to realize those New Year’s resolutions? Start with reading the Texas Bar Journal. Our editorial staff has you covered with highlights from the January issue. And don’t forget to check out Disciplinary Actions, Memorials, and Movers and Shakers.

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If you do, you are not alone.
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Inflatables
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